I Don’t Agree With Him, But Pass Me That Bucket Of Chicken

As a listener, it is extremely important to listen to information that is being relayed, and at times, hear an opinion or two about a certain situation or topic.

My personal rule is this:  if you voice an opinion that I disagree, or agree with, I will not be upset by it.  In other words, I’m not going to revolt about what you said.  I respect where you stand on a topic.

That’s being an adult.

It’s a sad commentary when I have to write this:  both sides of the Chik-Fil-A matter need to take a chill pill.

They’re both sounding ridiculous as hell…over one person’s opinion.

Keep your hands off my chicken, yo.

I’m not bothered at all by the Chik-Fil-A’s CEO position on gay marriages.  That’s his opinion.  But what is bothersome is the over-reaction and the silliness that has gotten out of hand over this.  Boycotts, people lining up to order chicken in support of (or just to mug for the cameras), and people trying politicize and rationalize a reason not to visit a chain of fast-food joints serving, mainly, chicken.

I’m going stereotype here:  I’m a brother, and if you stand between me and a plate of chicken, I don’t care if you’re pro-gay or anti-gay, you will get out of the way…or I’ll have to bull-rush you.

I disagree with his stance, but that’s not going to make me stay away from Chik-Fil-A. His opinion has no bearing on me.  The chicken in the oven doesn’t have an opinion on gay marriages.  That chicken is being cooked to be eaten, not to offer an editorial.

If my empty stomach is growling, it doesn’t mean that if I head to Chick-Fil-A, Americana, or Gusto Pizza, I’m going to hurt someone’s feelings.

I’m hungry, damnmit.

For those of who you are throwing a blanket over the employees, stop it.  How do you really know that the 17-year old kid behind that Chik-Fil-A counter agrees with what the CEO said?  Have you asked him or her, or did you just decided on the spot that the kid doesn’t like gays?  The kid probably doesn’t give two rips about what the CEO or you feel about gay marriages.

All he or she cares about is doing their job, getting paid, and rolling with the crew.

In radio and on television, there is a disclaimer that is always read before any talk show or topical program begins:

“The views expressed by the (host/owner/etc), does not represent the views of (entity, place, media outlet).” 

If most of us would take that disclaimer into consideration when someone expresses their opinion, then this wouldn’t be such a cluster-crap in the first place.

Remember, it’s one person’s opinion.  Just because he represents the company, that doesn’t mean all of his employees will agree with him, privately or personally.

That also applies to those who patronize Chik-Fil-A.  Have you considered at all on Wednesday that at least half of the people who were in line to order may not be “supporting” Chik-Fil-A?  Some of them were trying to get in on the action and get attention for themselves, and a few of them genuinely don’t care what the CEO or you think about gay marriage.

They’re hungry and need to eat something.  When did it become a political crusade to stop someone from eating over something you don’t agree with?

I’m no Democrat, Republican, liberal, or conservative.  I hear opinions from all sides every single day.  Some I’m cool with, some I’m uneasy with, but the point here is this:  for those of you who are making a stink over it, you’re grasping for straws.

Yes, you didn’t like what he said.  I get it.  Everyone “got” it.  Big frickin’ deal.  You’re an adult, they’re just words, grow up, and stop acting like someone’s out to disagree with your view of the world at every move.

Spend more time not letting people’s opinion bother the hell out of you, and spend less worrying incessently about it.

Ernie Anastos, do your thing (Warning:  NSFW and NSAK [not safe around kids]):



Hold Your Applause

On Wednesday, President Obama publicly came out and announced his stance on same-sex marriages.  This is a few days after Vice President Biden announced his position on it as well, but with less fanfare. 

To no surprise to me, both have said that they are in support of same-sex marriages, which was something that the LGBT community have been seeking from both men since the 2008 presidential campaign.  In the past, the feeling was that the President has been lukewarm and not “all-in” to the issue. 

Today, everyone is using words like “courageous”, “heroic”, “brave”, and others, to describe the President. 

That is all well and good, but let’s hold our applause for President Obama and Vice President Biden.  They did what they are supposed to do:  take a position that will make some people happy and some people unhappy. 

I tell you where those applauses should be given to…

…the individuals, couples, and supporters of same-sex marriages and LGBT rights who have toiled and fought in the quest to change the perception and the laws that will make same-sex marriages acceptable in our society. 

They are the “courageous” “brave” heroes who deserves your applause.  Nothing against the Prez, but what he did Wednesday pales in comparison to what groups like One Iowa, same-sex couples, and supporters have done. 

What makes them courageous and brave is that they don’t quit.  Yes, they suffered a setback when the North Carolina General Assembly, not the people who live in the state, the legislature voted against same-sex marriages.  But unlike some supporters who are throwing up their hands and giving up because one group of lawmakers said “no”, these committed individuals are persistent.  They get up after being knocked down, dust themselves off, and go at it again. 

Those who are so quick to give up and be frustrated clearly do not understand that it is a long journey, not a race.  You can’t get all 50 states and society to change overnight.  It’s not that simple.  One loss doesn’t (or shouldn’t) define your legacy.  Neither does one win.  Ask the pioneers of the Civil Rights movement about having patience and faith when they could have easily given up.  Don’t give up. 

For every North Carolina, there’s Iowa, albeit it was the state Supreme Court that made the decision in re Varnum v. Brien

Getting the folks in this building to support same-sex marriages is tough, but so is getting ourselves to do the same thing as citizens.

As we spend most of our time  obsessing over elected officials and campaigns, the pro-same sex marriage groups doesn’t get enough credit or full support for what they do.  Ninety minutes after the President told the country that he was in favor or same-sex marriages, over $1 million dollars were donated to his campaign. 

Don’t you think that money could have been sent to the groups who are on the front-line of changing the attitudes and working towards ensuring legal rights for lesbians, gays, bi-sexual, and transgendered individuals? 

Kenneth Weishuhn should have received your support and encouragement for coming out.  Instead, people turned on him, used cyber-bullying, and faced hostility.  He didn’t have to commit suicide because of the blowback he received for being gay.  He should have lauded for being brave for announcing he was gay. 

President Obama’s decision to support same-sex marriages isn’t as brave or courageous as some want to make it out to be.  His support, however, greatly helps in the effort to change the attitudes towards this issue and the LGBT community in general. 

Those who are not in the public eye who are supporting same-sex marriages are not celebrated and lauded.  Those are the ones we should be lauding and supporting. 

They are the real heroes of this crusade.  Let’s not forget them. 

Death threats, rejection, push back, misconceptions, and other factors are what they face every day.  And yet, they continue on with the fight.  Nothing deters them.  They know the next day is a new day to make a difference. 

What is considered “courageous” and “brave”? 

When all of us, as citizens, are willing to learn how important the issue of same-sex marriage is to the LGBT community, and the openness to support it, not just in spirit, but also financially. 

Don’t you think it’s time that the individuals, couples, and groups who are working towards changing the societal and legal attitudes towards LGBT and same-sex marriages get more of our applause for being brave, heroic, and courageous for taking the risk of doing what is right? 

It’s long overdue, if you asked me.

“Stuck in the Middle With You”


The Iowa Poll on Sunday indicates that the same-sex marriage debate isn't 50-50. It's 30-30-30. That might be a good thing.

My pal Reid Forgrave of the Des Moines Register filed a story on the latest Iowa Poll in Sunday’s Des Moines Register.  The new Iowa Poll showed that the same-sex marriage debate wasn’t entirely pro or against same-sex marriages and rights.

Add “indifferent” to the list.

The same-sex issue was split in three ways:  those who are in favor (32%), not in favor (37%), and have no interest (30%).

To quote Dean Martin, “ain’t that a kick in the head”!

What does this mean?

Live and let live.

This does not suggest that the 30% who are indifferent are in favor of same-sex marriage, nor does it mean they are against it.  The middle are comprised of those who are in favor and who are against it, but they are not going to pitch a bitch and go crazy about it.  With that said, the middle’s perspective is whatever happens, they can live with it.

It’s no secret that our society has dismissed people who profess to be moderates, or in the middle.  You know, the middle is probably smarter than you think.

My initial assessment/interpretation to this poll?  The more both sides keep up with the rhetoric and the gabbing about it, the less likely the middle is going to care about it. Those who are in the middle who look at this way:  the state Supreme Court made their ruling and regardless of if we agree or disagree with it, life moves on and we’ll adapt to the ruling.  That doesn’t mean we don’t care about it.  We care, but we’re not going apeshit about something that has become a part of our society.

Many Americans, Democrat or Republican, black and white, still look in disgust when they see an interracial couple walking down the street.  The GLBT community will have to deal with that everyday as well.

Either you accept it or you don’t.

In other words, not everyone is interested in something that you obsess about so much.